We previously discussed how disengagement in a subject might not solely be the fault of the student and how parents unintentionally play a role in eroding their child’s passion of learning by offering rewards. External rewards can only provide initial motivation but its effectiveness dwindles over time.
Just as financial rewards alone cannot sustain employee motivation, children’s drive to learn comes from within. Excessive reliance on external rewards can diminish your child’s sense of independence and intrinsic motivation, leading to decreased engagement and growing demand for incentives.
In this post, we will delve into the importance on parenting in affecting your child’s character development and their learning engagement.
How Parenting Affects Your Child’s Character and Learning Development?
The role of parents in shaping a child’s future cannot be overstated. Research has shown that a child’s behaviour is significantly influenced by their parent’s parenting style. Children are natural imitators, absorbing the world around them like sponges.
From a tender age, they begin to mimic their parent’s behaviours, speech patterns and even emotional responses. The way children are treated by their parents profoundly shapes their expectations and behaviours in future relationships.
An adult’s behaviour is largely a reflection of the treatment they receive and the behaviours they witness as a child. Children who grow up in environments where the parents are never wrong or satisfied are conditioned to suppress their opinions and feelings due to fear of punishment or ridicule.
Their oppressive childhood causes them to develop deep-seated resentment, which can manifest as ingratitude and demanding behaviour later in life. Research consistently shows a strong correlation between oppression and decreased learning engagement.
Resentment is often a defence mechanism that children develop to protect themselves, it makes them feel a sense of control or superiority and jealousy towards other’s success, to compensate for the powerlessness they felt as children. As these oppressed children transition into adulthood, they may struggle to find happiness and appreciate the efforts or kindness of others, focusing instead on the faults of others.
Resentment creates a strong belief that they deserve more, where they expect others to cater to their needs without reciprocation. Their oppressive dominance, often misinterpreted as competence or strong leadership, breeds resentment, feelings of unfairness and conflict in the workplace.
Parents are the role models of a child’s values system. Children develop values by observing their parent’s behaviours. When parents consistently keep their promises, children grow up to become reliable and trustworthy. But if parents often break their promises, children will learn that it’s okay to lie.
Parenting styles significantly impacts the child’s learning engagement and their approach to learning tasks. The way parents interact with their children at home directly influences how engaged and interested their children become in learning activities.
Curious to know more about the effects of your parenting on your child’s development and learning ability? Follow to discover more in part 6.
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